Leave Your Baggage At Home When Looking For A
Date!
With legion of single men and women out there, I am always
amazed at how some of us behave when it comes to selecting and
then meeting a partner for the first time. It doesn't matter
whether you found your possible match online, or through work,
friends or whatever, it never fails.
With legion of single men and women out there, I am always
amazed at how some of us behave when it comes to selecting and
then meeting a partner for the first time. It doesn't matter
whether you found your possible match online, or through work,
friends or whatever, it never fails.
I am of course ranting about the pre-conceived ideas that we,
singles seemingly always bring to the dating table. And there
again it is true for divorced people, those single souls that
were once in a relationship and having to do it all over again,
and true also for the never married, the eternal spinsters, men
or women even though I am aware that by definition, the word
spinster applies to a woman who has never married!
Habits forged over a life time are always difficult to dismiss.
After all we are creatures of habits. They guide us through our
lives, make us feel better; determine whom we are and how we
live.
But according to a recent poll, a staggering 30 pc of American
adults are singles, some having never been married before.
Staggering as these figures are, one thing they indicated that
as far as our dating habits are concerned, we may very well be
embarked on the wrong path. They have not brought us any luck so
far in our attempts to find relationship and romance, and in all
likelihood, they will not bring us any more success in the
future.
It seems evident then that we ought to re-visit our
preconceived ideas about who we are really, and the partners we
are looking for. Let's not be afraid of learning from past
mistakes. Our expectations, our assessment of the men and women
we are and want to meet, all these need to be looked at more
carefully.
When searching through profiles after profiles, I am often
amazed at the apparent perfection these single men and women
have achieved in their lives. Men and women want it all. The
looks, the attraction, the immediate and sudden physical pull,
the successful career, the house in the city and a vacation home
elsewhere, the need for independence coinciding with a search
for an equal provider, the whole package.
They take one look at your profile and make a decision there
and there based on a couple of photos and statements on a web
site page, which may, or may not reflect exactly what the person
really is.
And based on that initial assessment, they decide on their
course of action. It doesn't matter that they might actually get
to really like the person they are rejecting if they got to know
him/her better, they just go with their initial intuition which
is crazy really since often times they have been married in the
first place.
Dating, and online dating is difficult. It's not an easy task
to find a partner, a soul mate, a companion to spend a life time
with, or at least some of it. For the sake for sanity, let us
not make it any more difficult then it already is.
T'is tough to date nowayday.
About The Author: Thoughts and observations on Dating,
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