8 Quick Ways To Relax Before A Big Date

So you haven't been out on a date in awhile and you're nervous
that you'll do or say the wrong thing. Or perhaps your last
date was such a disaster that it should have had a rating 5 on
the weather channel. Getting nervous before a date is
understandable.

So you haven't been out on a date in awhile and you're nervous
that you'll do or say the wrong thing. Or perhaps your last
date was such a disaster that it should have had a rating 5 on
the weather channel. Getting nervous before a date is
understandable. Will they be attracted to you? Are you both on
the same wavelength? Will you be able to control your mouth
from saying something your brain knows is stupid?

Mistakes usually occur when stress levels are high. And lets
face it dating is a stressful endeavour. The best thing you can
do before a date is…relax…I know that is easier said than done
but here are 8 easy ways to chillout before your dates arrives
so that you actually have a good time on your date without any
jittery mis-steps.

1. Meditate or if that sounds too mystical just close your eyes
and focus on your breathing, feel it as it goes in and feel it
go out. Can you feel it flow through your nostrils into your
lungs? Does your stomach expand too? If it does then you know
your breathing deeply and you'll get the most benefit from the
activity. See if you can focus on the pause between breaths and
that between an inhale and an exhale. Do it for 5 minutes or do
it for 20 - the length is not as important as your focus during
this time.

2. Sing. Really loudly. Obviously this isn't going to work in
an office but it's great in the car, especially at night if
you're worried about other people looking at you oddly.

3. Stretch. Try standing with your feet hip width apart and
then take a deep breath, rise up onto your toes and reach up to
the ceiling with your fingertips. Hold for as long as you can.
And then slowly release your breath, your arms and finally put
your heels back on the ground.

4. Go for a walk even if it's just around the office or your
living room. Or you could walk to the mailbox or do 6 starjumps
or put on some dancing music. Anything to get your body moving
and those endorphins flowing.

5. Give yourself a quick massage - your feet or hands are good
places to start for a quick treat. Keep some hand cream or body
lotion at your desk or in your bedside table and you'll always
be ready to treat yourself. And take your time - afterall YOU
know the bits you like.

6. Connect with your inner child - Do a handstand or a
cartwheel - this isn't going to work indoors but if you're
wearing trousers there's no reason why you can't do it in the
park on your way to meet your date. And while you're there have
a go on the slide too (not a good option if you're wearing white
and its probably a good idea to make sure the ramp is clean
before you slide).

7. Go somewhere private and be as unbelievably angry as you
possibly can and try to stay angry - you'll find that 9 times
out of 10 you won't be able to sustain it. The idea is not to
get all worked up and then go and spray your anger at your
date. It's about getting it all out and then dealing with
whatever situation needs addressing. In order to do this you
need to make sure that you don't leave your private space until
you feel like your anger has all gone. We hear so much about
anger management when it's not really about managing it, but
rather letting it out. Just remember the golden rule: its OK to
get angry but its not OK to take it out on someone or something
else.

8. Read fiction - almost everyone agrees that fiction is a
wonderful escape from the day to day. There's nothing quite
like stepping out of your own life and into the lives of the
characters in a good story. And a good short story is just the
thing for a 15 minute chillout session. Don't know where to
start? Check out www.espressofiction.com for some cool fiction
that can be sent to you by email each week.

Hope these tips work for you on your next date. You might even
find you enjoy it!

About the Author: Anna Dawson has tried a lot of different
dating options and has learnt the hard way what works and what
doesn't. Now through her website she is finally sharing her
secrets and helping to take the confusion out of dating. At
http://www.datingloveadvice.com you'll find great articles,
practical tools, and up-to-date news affecting the dating
world.

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